{"id":519,"date":"2026-01-28T11:08:52","date_gmt":"2026-01-28T11:08:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/imeldaargel.com.au\/?p=519"},"modified":"2026-01-28T11:14:28","modified_gmt":"2026-01-28T11:14:28","slug":"chit-roces-santos-philippine-daily-inquirer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/imeldaargel.com.au\/index.php\/2026\/01\/28\/chit-roces-santos-philippine-daily-inquirer\/","title":{"rendered":"Chit Roces Santos – Philippine Daily Inquirer"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Columnist<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Editorial review<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Imelda Argel\u2019s book, \u201cA Pebble that Floats,\u201d is the story of a woman\u2019s victory over her
own gender\u2019s self-imposed limitations and a bold escape from her imprisonment in
family and cultural traditions.
Imelda is a fellow Theresian (College \u201966), five years my junior. I met her at a webinar
sponsored by our school for bolstering resiliency in this time of pandemic. Through hits
and misses, she manages to free herself from a loveless marriage, leaves her country of
her birth, and finds her new place in the sun\u2014and a lifetime partner, too\u2014in Australia,
where a sister had herself immigrated with her own family. Imelda is the pebble in the
title that defies the down pull natural to a pebble\u2019s circumstances and floats to success,
freedom and fulfillment.
It is not uncommon in our culture for even an intelligent, successful, and pedigreed
woman to feel as lost as any young wife. After only eight years of marriage and despite
all effort to save it, Imelda, by then mother to a son, realized that her marriage had come
to its end. Nothing unhinged a woman as a broken marriage did in the Philippine society
of her time, yet nothing prepared her for that. Imelda\u2019s case was a rather pat one
involving a husband\u2019s long-running illicit relationship, which he wanted to continue with
the complicity of a common friend whose loyalty to her she never doubted.
One would think, having grown up with Belgian nuns, who could spot malice even where
there was none, Imelda would have sensed she was being played by the two men, much
earlier.
The nuns, in fact, could not stop her, despite their threats of possible excommunication,
and following in her parents\u2019 footsteps, she enrolled in law, in that \u201cGodless\u201d alma mater
of her mother, the University of the Philippines; her father was from Georgetown
University. Both parents came from a long line of distinguished professionals, mostly
lawyers, from Vigan, Ilocos Sur.
It might be easier to blame the overprotective nuns for her lack of experience\u2014they
didn\u2019t even allow a proper prom. In any case, the culture itself made it rather common for
a career woman of Imelda\u2019s time to be absolutely inexperienced, indeed absolutely pure,
coming into a marriage, at age 32. And so, the most glaring telltale signs of the classic
louse had escaped her notice until it was too late.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Divine irony<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

As possibly divinely intended, out of an ill-fated union, a good son is born. Imelda\u2019s
Enrico became for her the motivation to succeed and someone, too, to rely on to make
life easier for herself. When she was starting her own law office in Sydney, she relates,
\u201cEnrico became my office manager, paralegal, bookkeeper, marketing manager and
receptionist, rolled into one.\u201d
As she got older it was he who would look after her, checking on her daily, encouraging
her to have a new life of her own. He now has his own family. For possibly another
divine irony, Enrico became an engineer, like his estranged father.
Before leaving she had filed for state and Church annulment, and when the time was
right, fought for son\u2019s legitimacy from his father.
While other problems, like her status and the stigma of a broken home, were solved by
migration to Australia, other trials presented themselves. In 1988 most young Filipino
women there were presumed mail-order brides. Imelda\u2019s 15 years of court experience,
which might have spared her from the prejudice, made her, on the other hand,
overqualified for any job.
When I myself became separated, in the early \u201980s, I had the same fears and instincts
as Imelda. I flew to Australia, too, where an uncle had settled, in Sydney. I brought with
me Vergel\u2019s credentials, hoping to find a job for him and settle there with him. Alas, with
two newspaper editorships under his belt and a lifelong, extensive experience as a
journalist, Vergel, like Imelda, was overqualified, was therefore unemployable in his own
profession. We were thus forced to face our challenges on home ground.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Knocked down barriers<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Imelda, herself had to find work beneath her stature to support herself and her son, but
made time to pursue her masters at the University of Sydney. Step by step she
managed to knock down the barriers that stood in the way of a law practice. It is partly to
her credit that Australia now recognizes a Philippine Regulatory Commission board
certificate as an equivalent of an Australian degree.
From Australia, she made representations on the strength of her 15 years of legal
practice in the Philippines and her masters from Australia for a license to practice in New
York. Her case went to the New York Supreme Court, and she won. She got her license
without having to take any American bar exams. She flew to New York to take her oath.
She could have practiced in New York, but, with Enrico to think of, she set up her
practice in Sydney. One good thing led to another, and she helped in promoting
investments between the Philippines and Australia. Finding a job in Australia for a
relative who was a nurse started her helping other Filipino nurses.
Empowered by her proud lineage, her excellent education, and tenacity and resilience,
along with the emotional support from family and her other professional friends, Imelda
has indeed become an invaluable asset for both her country of birth and home country
of choice.
Now 74, Imelda has been semiretired since 2012. She lives with her life partner, Manny,
in a dream house they built together, a four-level with a panoramic view, in Collaroy,
Sydney. They walk to the beach. She met Manny, an Australian divorcee with his own
children, at a dancing school in 2009. They went very naturally from dancing partners to
traveling partners to business partners to lifetime partners.
Marriage is nowhere in their plans, and if you ask her why not, she has a confident,
liberated, lawyerly, Australian, and un-Theresian answer.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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